Coming Out

Coming out is often thought of as a single, defining moment—but in reality, it’s an ongoing process. Whether you’re sharing your sexual orientation, gender identity, or both, coming out can happen repeatedly throughout life: with new friends, at work, in healthcare settings, or with family. For many, this can feel tiring, frustrating, or even unsafe. Each time, coming out may bring up a different emotional response—from pride to anxiety to grief—and all of those feelings are valid.

If you’re coming out later in life, you might also be navigating deeper layers: the impact of past relationships, internalised shame, or a sense of having “missed time.” Whether you’re exploring your sexuality after years in a heterosexual marriage, or recognising your gender identity in midlife or beyond, this stage of the journey can feel both liberating and complicated. There may be joy in self-discovery, but also loss, fear, or uncertainty.

In therapy, I offer a space where these experiences are met with compassion and respect. We’ll work together to explore what coming out means for you now, help you make sense of past experiences, and build confidence in your identity—at your pace, on your terms. There is no “too late” or “wrong way” to come out—only what feels authentic for you.