Many people struggle with the idea of self care because somewhere along the way they learned that prioritising themselves was selfish, inconsiderate, or wrong. Over time, this can lead to people pleasing, emotional exhaustion, burnout, and constantly putting other people’s needs ahead of your own.
For many LGBTQ+ people, this pattern can develop from years of trying to keep the peace, avoid rejection, gain acceptance, or make other people feel comfortable. When you spend long enough monitoring everyone else’s emotions and expectations, it can become difficult to recognise your own needs or give yourself permission to rest, slow down, or take up space.
Self care isn’t about becoming self centred or ignoring other people. Healthy self care is about recognising that your emotional wellbeing matters too. It is about boundaries, emotional regulation, balance, and learning that you do not have to abandon yourself in order to maintain connection with others.
In this video, I explore self care, guilt, people pleasing, emotional burnout, and why looking after yourself is not selfish. If you often struggle to put your own needs first or feel guilty for protecting your time, energy, or wellbeing, I’d really encourage you to watch the video
If any of this resonates with you and you’d like support exploring it further, I offer LGBTQ+ affirming therapy both online and in person from my practice in Manchester city centre. You’re welcome to get in touch to arrange a free 15 minute introductory call.