Many people find themselves stuck in the same unhealthy relationship patterns without fully understanding why. Arguments repeat themselves, emotions escalate quickly, and people can end up feeling criticised, responsible for fixing everything, or emotionally powerless.
One model that can help make sense of these patterns is the Drama Triangle, a psychological model that explores how people can unconsciously slip into roles such as the Rescuer, Victim, or Persecutor during conflict or emotional stress. These roles often develop as protective strategies, particularly for people who grew up around criticism, emotional unpredictability, conflict, or people pleasing dynamics.
For many LGBTQ+ people, experiences of shame, rejection, hypervigilance, or needing to manage other people’s emotions can make these communication patterns feel especially familiar in adult relationships, friendships, and family dynamics.
In this video, I explore the Drama Triangle, unhealthy communication patterns, emotional triggers, conflict, and why recognising these roles can help us respond in healthier and more connected ways. If you often feel trapped in repetitive conflict cycles or emotionally draining relationship dynamics, I’d really encourage you to watch the video.
If any of this resonates with you and you’d like support exploring it further, I offer LGBTQ+ affirming therapy both online and in person from my practice in Manchester city centre. You’re welcome to get in touch to arrange a free 15 minute introductory call.
