LGBTQ + Mental Health Blog
Sharing regular reflections, articles, videos, and insights exploring LGBTQ+ mental health, relationships, shame, identity, trauma, recovery, and emotional wellbeing through an affirming, trauma informed, and psychologically grounded lens shaped by both professional training and lived experience.
Why “You Do You” Can Be So Powerful: Acceptance, Boundaries & Authenticity
"You Do You Can Be So Empowering" Many LGBTQ+ people grow up feeling like they have to edit themselves a little depending on who they’re around. Keeping the peace. Not taking up too much space. Trying not to make other people uncomfortable. Over time, that can leave...
LGBTQ+ Anxiety And The Threat System
Anxiety can feel exhausting and overwhelming, especially when it starts affecting everyday things like relationships, work, confidence, sleep, or even leaving the house. Over time, many people begin feeling stuck in survival mode, constantly overthinking, scanning for danger, or waiting for something to go wrong.
Fear Of Intimacy: Why Do I Push People Away When They Get Close?
Do you find yourself craving connection, only to pull away when relationships start to feel emotionally close? This article explores why many LGBTQ+ people struggle with intimacy, where these patterns come from, and how therapy can help create safer, healthier relationships.
Toxic Family Dynamics And Boundaries
Do you have someone in your life who constantly leaves you feeling emotionally drained? Maybe no matter how much you help, support, compromise, or try to keep the peace, it never seems to be enough. Many people find themselves stuck in exhausting family or friendship...
Decoding Mixed Signals: When Words And Actions Don’t Match
When somebody says they don’t want a relationship but continues to call, message and spend time with you, it can leave you feeling confused, hopeful and emotionally stuck. In this article, I explore why mixed signals can feel so powerful, why many LGBTQ+ people struggle with ambiguity in relationships, and how to recognise when hope is keeping us invested in something that isn’t changing.
Why LGBTQ+ People sometimes Miss Romantic Signals
Many LGBTQ+ people grow up without the same opportunities to openly explore attraction, dating, flirting, and relationships that heterosexual people are often able to experience more freely from a young age. For a lot of queer people, attraction became something...
People Pleasing On Holiday: Why Some People Feel Responsible For Everyone Else
In this video, I explore emotional responsibility, boundaries, people pleasing, and the pressure many people feel to keep everyone else happy. I also talk about why protecting your own peace and enjoyment doesn’t make you selfish. If you often feel emotionally responsible for other people or struggle to relax without monitoring everyone around you, I’d really encourage you to watch the video.
LGBTQ+ Family Boundaries At Christmas: Coping With Non Accepting Families
Christmas and family gatherings can bring up a lot of mixed emotions for LGBTQ+ people. While this time of year is often presented as joyful and family centred, for many people it can also trigger anxiety, stress, shame, loneliness, or the pressure to hide parts of...
Emotional Denial: Why Do I Struggle To Feel My Feelings?
Many people know they’re anxious, overwhelmed, exhausted, or unhappy, yet struggle to identify what they’re actually feeling. Emotional denial isn’t usually a refusal to feel. More often, it’s a survival strategy that once helped us cope with difficult experiences.
Why Self Care Isn’t Selfish For LGBTQ+ People
Many people struggle with the idea of self care because somewhere along the way they learned that prioritising themselves was selfish, inconsiderate, or wrong. Over time, this can lead to people pleasing, emotional exhaustion, burnout, and constantly putting other...