LGBTQ + Mental Health Blog
Sharing regular reflections, articles, videos, and insights exploring LGBTQ+ mental health, relationships, shame, identity, trauma, recovery, and emotional wellbeing through an affirming, trauma informed, and psychologically grounded lens shaped by both professional training and lived experience.
Understanding The Window Of Tolerance & Emotional Overwhelm
Why do some situations trigger such strong emotional reactions? Understanding the Window of Tolerance can help make sense of anxiety, overwhelm, shutdown, and emotional dysregulation. In this article, I explore how the nervous system responds to stress and trauma, and how greater self awareness can help us move from self criticism towards self compassion.
How To Step Out Of The Drama Triangle
Many people find themselves caught in unhealthy communication patterns during arguments, conflict, or emotionally charged conversations. We can quickly slip into feeling responsible for fixing other people, emotionally overwhelmed, defensive, critical, or powerless...
The Drama Triangle & Unhealthy Relationship Patterns
Many people find themselves stuck in the same unhealthy relationship patterns without fully understanding why. Arguments repeat themselves, emotions escalate quickly, and people can end up feeling criticised, responsible for fixing everything, or emotionally...
Setting Boundaries: Why It Feels So Difficult To Put Yourself First
Setting boundaries sounds simple, yet many people struggle to put them into practice. This article explores why setting boundaries can feel so difficult, how guilt and fear often get in the way, and why learning to prioritise your own needs is an important part of self worth and emotional wellbeing.
World AIDS Day
World AIDS Day remains an important and emotional day for many people in the LGBTQ+ community. HIV shaped generations of queer lives, relationships, friendships, and communities, and while huge medical progress has been made, stigma, misinformation, fear, and silence...
Hook Up Apps, Rejection, & LGBTQ+ Mental Health
Hook up apps can be complicated spaces for many people in the LGBTQ+ community. While they can offer connection, validation, intimacy, and community, they can also expose people to rejection, discrimination, body shaming, racism, misogyny, and HIV stigma in ways that...
The LGBTQ+ Inner Critic & Learning Self Compassion
Many people struggle with a harsh inner critic that constantly tells them they are not good enough, unlikeable, a failure, or somehow fundamentally flawed. Over time, that critical inner voice can affect confidence, self esteem, relationships, anxiety, and emotional...
LGBTQ+ Self Esteem, Shame & Self Worth
Low self esteem can affect almost every part of life, from relationships and confidence to boundaries, anxiety, people pleasing, and the way we speak to ourselves internally. Many people spend years feeling not good enough, constantly comparing themselves to others, or struggling to recognise their own worth.
Gender Identity Isn’t Binary: Understanding Gender Beyond Western ideas
Gender identity is something many people still misunderstand. Often, people assume biological sex, sex assigned at birth, gender, and gender identity are all the same thing, but they are very different. Gender identity is not something that can be seen on a scan or...
Gender Isn’t Binary: Understanding Gender Norms & Stereotypes
Gender norms and stereotypes shape much more of our lives than many people realise. From childhood, we’re often taught there are certain ways men and women are “supposed” to behave, express emotion, dress, communicate, or move through the world. Over time, these...