LGBTQ + Mental Health Blog
Sharing regular reflections, articles, videos, and insights exploring LGBTQ+ mental health, relationships, shame, identity, trauma, recovery, and emotional wellbeing through an affirming, trauma informed, and psychologically grounded lens shaped by both professional training and lived experience.
What Do We Mean By “Biological Sex”
What do we mean by "Biological Sex"? about biological sex, gender, and the way society tries to fit human beings into rigid boxes. Most of us grow up believing sex is simple. A baby is born, a doctor looks at the genitals, and they’re labelled male or female. But what...
National Coming Out Day
🌈 National Coming Out Day means many things. For some, it’s joy and relief. For others, it’s complicated, risky, or not yet. All of that is valid. Coming out isn’t a test of courage or “realness.” It’s a choice about safety, timing, and trust. You’re allowed to move...
Chemsex, A Complex Relationship
Chemsex can feel like an escape, a way to connect, or a quick release from stress, but it can also bring challenges: strained relationships, health concerns, or a sense of being stuck in patterns that don’t feel right anymore. Therapy offers a safe, non-judgmental...
Internalised Shame & LGBTQ+ Identity: Unlearning The Rules We Grew Up With
Many LGBTQ+ people grow up feeling pressure to fit into rigid boxes around identity, relationships, gender, emotions, or the way we are “supposed” to live our lives. Over time, this can leave people feeling conflicted, disconnected from themselves, or worried that...
A Simple Grounding Technique For Racing Thoughts & Anxiety
Many people spend so much time caught up replaying the past or worrying about the future that they stop fully experiencing the present moment. When anxiety, overwhelm, or racing thoughts take over, grounding techniques can help bring the nervous system back into the...
LGBTQ+ Perfectionism: Why So Many Queer People Feel They Have to Be Perfect
Many LGBTQ+ people grow up feeling different long before they understand why. For some, perfectionism becomes a way of earning acceptance, avoiding rejection, and compensating for shame. The problem is that no amount of achievement can heal a wound that was never about achievement in the first place.
The Velvet Rage & Straight Jacket: Understanding Shame, Self Worth And The Gay Experience
Reading The Velvet Rage and Straight Jacket helped me understand aspects of my own experiences as a gay man that had never fully made sense before. In this article, I explore the themes of shame, validation, belonging, and self worth that run through both books, and reflect on why they remain so relevant today.
The Effects Of Childhood Bullying: Growing Up LGBTQ+ In A World That Didn’t Feel Safe
The effects of childhood bullying don’t always end when school ends. Many LGBTQ+ adults continue to carry the shame, fear, loneliness, and hypervigilance that developed during years of rejection and exclusion. This article explores how childhood bullying can shape mental health long into adulthood and how healing is possible.
Judging Others So Harshly: The Psychology of Moral Superiority
In this video, I explore judgement, double standards, self awareness, and why humility and compassion often create far more connection than criticism ever will.
Internalised Homophobia: How Shame & Societal Messages Become Internalised
Many LGBTQ+ people grow up absorbing messages about sexuality, gender, and belonging long before they understand what those messages mean. Internalised homophobia is often less about self hatred and more about carrying society’s shame inside ourselves.